Asking myself “is this helping me get what I want” is becoming one of my favorite questions.Farnam Street
It works on kids too. Mine are 11 and soon to be 10. Whenever they start fighting, I ask them, “Is this helping you get what you want?” and it gives them the power to remember what they are really trying to accomplish. “You can argue with your brother about whether it’s a chair or a stool, or you can get what you want.”
Don’t lose sight on what you want to achieve. Every action is a step toward or away from you what you want.